Dating, Sex, & Relationships

Thanks for the great insights Dr. Greg.

I have a Chinese girlfriend and we just had our first little disagreement. She constantly touches me and normally I like this (except when she caresses my throat), but after a long day in the hot sun, I wanted some space.

Well after many small hints, I unconsciously pushed her hand away (again I wanted some air between us). I should have been vocal about my request, I realize this. She quietly got up and left (rather I got her a taxi and gave her cash for it). Is it that she was disrespected and had to go cry in private? She did not want to talk about it.

So now the silent treatment right? Or will we talk about other things but it's my job to bring up this topic and clear the air?

So is it common for American men to have to get used to a woman that hangs on them constantly? I know it's a good problem to have.

Anyway, can you direct me to the link for the book? I read your mention of 8-chapters about Chinese personality, identity, social norms, etc. I just want to understand her.

I realize that now she needs my reassurance...now to just better understand her...

The eight chapters you refer to begin with an Introduction to Dating, Sex, and Relationships and are part of the Foreign Teachers Guide to Living and Working in China.

Yes, there is a big difference between genuine intimacy and clinginess.