Hi Dr. Greg,
I remember being jealous of all the jocks in high school and college because all the girls fawned over them, and I often wished I was popular also. Now I have learned it is not so easy. I find myself with two terrific Chinese women who both have serious intentions. I didn't plan this, it just happened that way.
I must admit that I have not encountered this situation before, even though I am over 50. I never learned the skill of dating. I have seen people date multiple people at once, but I have no idea how they do it without massive guilt complexes. I don't like it.
I am dreading having to choose between one of these girls and hurting them. In the distant past if I was tired of a woman, I would simply act like a jerk until she dumped me. Rejection I can handle. God knows I have had enough practice with that.
If I was an insensitive cad like most of the jocks in school, this wouldn't bother me I suppose. I am starting to wonder if I have crossed the line from sensitivity into codependency. Have you ever heard of a remedial dating course for old codgers? What is the mature, kind way to deal with this, if there is one?