Narcissistic Tendencies Test
This test is intended to serve as a supplement to our chapter on Narcissistic Types Among Chinese Women. However, it can be used by anyone to determine if one's partner may suffer from pathological narcissism independent of culture.
For each of the following 25 questions, think of your girlfriend (or boyfriend) and indicate whether you strongly disagree, somewhat disagree, aren't sure, somewhat agree or strongly agree with each statement.
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Life with a pathological narcissist is not a happy one. If your current partner is a narcissist, and especially if you have a history of being attracted to this type of person, this also says a great deal about you as well.
Pathologically narcissistic women are commonly drawn to two specific types of characterological constellations (cluster of traits) in men: those who also have narcissistic traits (or disorders) and those who suffer from what is referred to as a borderline personality disorder.
Specifically, closet narcissists (see chapter on Narcissistic Types Among Chinese Women) tend to be drawn to borderline men, while exhibitionistic narcissists seek out men who are also phallic narcissists as well. The later include those "beautiful people" or "special couples" who bask in each other's glory.
The former relationship type (closet narcissistic female and the borderline male) is usually marked by a woman who feels burdened, even martyred, by her ineffectual, disappointing husband, and typically refers to herself as a "masochist." The borderline husband feels angry and resentful most of the time and may even "screw up" frequently to punish (as well as self-destructively validate) his critical, disapproving, and unadmiring wife. He stays in the relationship because he is terrified of being alone and also because he feels inadequate and unlovable, and she stays because she has found in him someone who generally understands and can relate to her struggles and, at times, a man who is even a true admirer.
DSM-IV Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder
For your edification, we are appending the American Psychiatric Association's criteria for the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in their Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fourth Edition (DSM-IV).
Narcissistic DSM IV Criteria
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
Diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder
A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following: